Being a parent is probably the most important job many of us will ever have. We recognize that it is not enough to simply raise a child who does what he or she is told or gets good grades. In this book, clinical psychologist Dr. Edward Christophersen and his colleague, child psychologist Dr. Susan Mortweet, show parents how to raise their child to become the adult we'd all like to be—one who is happy and compassionate, confident but not aggressive, and able to make and keep friends. They point out that from babyhood on through the school years, children learn these qualities by observing and interacting with their parents. In clearly written, easy-to-follow chapters, parents are shown how to model and reward positive behaviors and avoid the need for ineffective, punitive discipline.

Two key areas are covered in the book: building one's own skills as a parent, and then building one's child's competencies. Scores of practical examples show parents how to teach their children what is important in life, how to communicate clearly, and how to effectively discipline their child. Special parenting topics such as managing a child's behavior in public, monitoring TV, toys, and games, and handling fallout from divorce are also discussed. Readers then learn how to build their child's basic skills by teaching him or her how to quickly get over upsets and how to play independently. The authors also dispense wise advice on the all-too-common problems associated with bedtime and sleeping, toilet training, aggression, and tantrums. This book is a great resource that parents will find reassuring, comprehensive, and thought-provoking.

Table of Contents


I. Building Effective Parenting Skills

  1. Teaching Your Child What Is Important
  2. Providing Positive Feedback
  3. Communicating With Your Child
  4. Disciplining Your Child Effectively
  5. Building Parent Coping Skills

II. Special Parenting Topics

  1. Managing Your Child's Behavior Away From Home
  2. Getting the Most Out of Toys, Games, and Sports
  3. Dealing With Divorce

III. Building Your Child's Skills

  1. Building Self-Quieting Skills
  2. Encouraging Independent Play Skills

IV. Special Child Topics

  1. Establishing Bedtime
  2. Facilitating Toilet Training
  3. Discouraging Aggression
  4. Coping With Whining and Tantrums

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About the Authors