Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships
For individuals in the U.S. & U.S. territories
Sexuality can be one of the most fulfilling pleasures in life. Yet it is an aspect of relationships that is complex and sometimes fraught with difficulty. Given the mixed messages about sexuality that exist in our culture, it is hardly surprising that men and women find intimate relationships hard to discuss and negotiate. Furthermore, therapy for sexual dysfunction has tended to emphasize physiological and technical issues over the psychological ones that the authors believe are at the root of many couples' problems.
In Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships, Firestone and his coauthors help therapists help their clients. Drawing on their forty years of combined clinical experience and a unique longitudinal study of couples and families, they propose that sexual problems are largely related to defenses acquired through painful childhood experiences. The self-sabotaging effects of this "fantasy bond"—an illusion of connection to the mother or primary caregiver—give rise to critical internal "voices." These voices support negative views of the self and others, interfering with closeness and intimacy.
In accessible language and through the liberal use of case material from therapy sessions, the authors show how clients can be helped to overcome these challenges and become physically and emotionally closer to their partners. Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships is thought-provoking reading for anyone interested in what sustains a loving and fulfilling sexual relationship.
I. Exploring Sexuality and Love
- What is Healthy Sexuality?
- What is Love?
II. Factors Influencing Sexual Development and Adult Sexual Functioning
- Factors That Affect an Individual's Sexuality
- Men, Women, and Sexual Stereotypes
- Approaches to the Etiology of Sexual Dysfunctions and Problems in Sexual Relating
III. The Defensive Process and Sexuality
- The Role of the Fantasy Bond, the Voice Process, and Death Anxiety in Sexual Relationships
- Sexual Withholding
- Couple Relationships: Jealousy and Sexual Rivals
IV. Therapeutic Approaches to Problems in Sexual Relating
- Voice Therapy Applied to Problems in Sexual Relating
- Suggestions for Enhancing Sexual Intimacy
About the Authors
The culmination of research and professional literature on sexuality is explored and presented in a truly unique and sensible way, such that anyone interested in gaining insight and a better understanding of this often misunderstood subject will find value in this remarkable book.
—Doody Enterprises, Inc.